On the Minister's Mind
by Rev. Laine Morgan
"There is no pain quite like that of a broken heart, but a broken heart is an open heart. And, when this happens, a transformation can take place. In the midst of the pain, we feel a softness and vulnerability that are truly beautiful. We become more accepting and open. Judgment and criticism are replaced by a compassion for others and an acceptance of life." - Douglas Bloch, Healing From Depression
When I found this passage from Douglas Bloch, the phrase that stood out for me is “a broken heart is an open heart.” As I look back over my life, I can see that in the times of my own broken heartedness, the biggest transformations occurred. Out of the softness and vulnerability came the strength for me to make changes and find new ways of being. Out of the pain rose resilience and the ability for me to listen to the call of a new path.
But, I must say that this perspective was not visible at the moment. It only revealed itself in hindsight when I looked back at my experiences. When my heart was struggling with the loss or unexpected change of circumstances, I may have felt overwhelmed and crushed, but somewhere beneath the surface, I was opening myself up to deeper compassion and acceptance so that, in time, something new could be birthed. The seeds for a new beginning were planted in the broken soil of my heart.
Perhaps you are in the middle of your own heartbreak, disappointed by the turn of events that have left you discouraged and bewildered. As you feel the loss, search within to find the soft spot within where Spirit’s light shines on. In that place you may find a way to accept what has happened and feel compassion for yourself and others involved. In that place you may find the doorway that leads to what is next, and the gifts that have been revealed through the experience.
Keep your heart soft. Even though the old reflex may be to wall yourself off in protection, remember that vulnerability is part of being human and no wall is thick enough to protect you anyway. Our greatest protection is the knowing that our soul is in charge and everything that unfolds in our lives is showing up to grow us toward greater love. Reach for the love and know that something new is coming out of this day.
As a community, we can support each other through our times of broken heartedness by intentionally creating a space that welcomes open hearts! Together we can discover new ways of being when things change unexpectedly and show up for each other in compassion and non-judgment. How beautiful!